But, I figured, if Robin Wright can snag a hot younger boyfriend after 15 years of marriage and a very public divorce, I could at least give dating a shot.
To my pleasant surprise, my 30-something confidence combined with the dawn of casual online dating culture made for one damn fun year and a half.
The person who texts you just to say hello, who tells you that you’re beautiful more times in a week than your ex ever did and the one that makes you realize exactly why it didn’t work out with anyone else (ex-husband included).
It’s not easy, it’s exhausting, it’s trying and there are going to be moments you consider moving to a convent, but in the end, it’s worth it.
If you know why you are a catch, then you will be more selective when you start dating. This is important also to know who is a good fit for you.
You didn’t do it right the first time, OK, now what?
Instead of going to a bar, a coffee shop or a restaurant and organically meeting someone interesting, the dating of today is all at the tip of your fingers.
You swipe, click and scroll your way through hundreds of potential matches until you find one that checks off all of your boxes (tall, good job, funny, family-oriented, etc.).
Not only had I not dated in nine years, the world of dating had changed dramatically.Because, as the saying goes, those who do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it.So if you truly want to enjoy what the future has in store, give yourself time to come to terms with your past.Turned out, dating as a divorced 35-year-old was a great way to pass the time until I felt ready for a relationship again.Behold the 16 stages of my journey, illustrated with GIFs featuring sassy women.
The best part about being divorced after a short marriage is being single again at 35. When my marriage ended after just two years, the idea of navigating the dating world all over again seemed daunting, unappealing, and pointless.