If single 30- and 40-something men are either still out at the club keeping the Pussy Posse alive or tending to their sudden desire for a more “meaningful” existence by settling down with women who are younger, where does that leave all the “really good” grown ass single women* who, FOR THE LOVE OF FUCKING GOD, just want to be treated like human beings and not costars the universe provides to enhance the stages of too many men’s glacially-paced journey towards understanding that life is more meaningful when you actually give a shit?
Allow me to ask the question the piece goes out of its way to leave unacknowledged: What about straight single women over 35 who are seeking commitment and maybe even a family?
Definitely, I’m not giving up.” Ahh yes, a single man who is used to doing and getting what he wants, bravely refusing to give up hope that is in store. It doesn’t help that trend pieces like this one talk about “meaningful” relationships and experiences as if they are things you acquire once the keg is tapped and you’ve gotten bored of playing with all the shiny objects in the room.
It’s a tale as old as the universe itself, obviously. ’ There are a lot more challenges the older you get, and I realize that now.” Yes, I’m sure it’s very challenging to wake up one day, the hungover stench of male entitlement and vodka turning your stomach to the point where the nausea feels like loneliness, and realize that what you want is a wife and kids, and when you want it is now-so to be safe, you should probably stick to dating women under 35. It irritates me that even just really, truly about a woman poses such a threat to male freedom; that it’s seen as a burden that can’t possibly be juggled until that day arrives when they’re suddenly “mature” enough to appreciate the ways in which it benefits they’ll need to date younger too, so their seed can spread someday.
Once you’ve had the pleasure of cleaning the diaper of a small screaming human, or paying 0 to see Dora the Explorer Live on Stage, you realize that you are now way on down the list of importance.
If you’ve never had kids, you still think the world revolves around you.
And what that means is, it will benefit you to network.
A full Spin class is a bummer but not a life changer; certainly not the same level of upset as discovering your child’s racked up a cellphone bill of over 8 in one month. Being a parent, you’re used to the quick change of plans. Someone vomits in their backpack on the way to school and suddenly you are working from home that day. Yes, we’ve been married and our marriages failed but at least we had the courage to say I Do. Women so young and naive that they can’t discern their emotional disabilities. What’s this earth shattering, paradigm shifting information I need to lay upon you? If you are a single male, you believe that you are number one. To be a parent means to realize that what want now means nothing at all. If you’ve never had kids, you don’t understand that. But for some men, this fear of dying alone sends them “plunging … And because they’re so used to doing what they want, when they want, they’re impatient as fuck about seeing results.into a dark place,” because what if “all the really good girls that [they] would want to marry are taken,” as matchmaker Maria Avgitidis put it, having been snatched up by men “four years younger”? I’m sorry, but I, as a single 36-year-old woman who has seen nearly every promising new relationship combust the Well, the good news is, there are options!
This is where I paused to do some mental math, and quickly realized that, for a piece focused so much on age, it sure does tiptoe around making any direct reference to the age of the these men are concerned they’ve missed out on. While financially strenuous, women can become parents on their own, without a male costar beyond what was ejaculated into a cup.