It is a question I am asked often during divorce proceedings: Can I date during my divorce? A new love interest can serve as a welcome distraction during a very rough time in your life.
But, there are some things you need to know about dating during divorce that could affect you, your children, and of course, your divorce case.
In contentious child custody cases, you may want to think of yourself as being under an unfair microscope.
I use the word unfair because far too often every single action you take will be unfairly judged by your spouse or your spouse’s lawyer and may even be presented to the court as evidence that you are not acting in the I use the term microscope because it is not unusual for parents to keep a watchful eye on the other parent in the hope of catching him or her in actions that can be used in court during the child custody proceeding.
It was not an easy decision to leave and change the life your children grew up with.
There have been many logistical issues and emotions to deal with as you have organized new living arrangements. They may worry that, if their parents can stop loving each other, then how hard would it be for either parent to stop loving them?
Even though separated, you are still technically married until the court enters the order granting the divorce.Children have many feelings about their parents’ divorce. For children, there is often a strong desire for a reconciliation between you and their other parent.Your children may perceive a new person in your life as someone who could not only interrupt that reconciliation, but interfere with your time with your them as well.Every once in a while I am asked by clients whether or not they should get into a relationship during the divorce proceeding.This issue of dating during a divorce can either be a non-issue or a serious one. Our role as family law lawyers is to help guide our clients through a divorce proceeding.
• Give your children time to adjust to their new situation.