Because the idea of sexuality is often equated with sexual activity, those of us who are unmarried often miss the rich blessings God can pour out upon us as sons and daughters as sexual beings. For the married person, it means a life of purity through faithfulness.
Godly unmarried sexuality is more than a call to abstain from sexual activity. When it comes to discussions of sexuality, singles (from the never-married teen, to the senior-something single-again, and all those in-between) are often counseled in these sorts of ways: “Don’t! All who live in God’s world belong to him (Psalm 24:1, 2) and are designed and called to live a life of purity.
Chastity is sexually lived out in a pure way; it is a commitment to keep sex in its proper place.
” “It’s great, but it’s not for you, unless you’re ‘burning’…then get married! The unmarried to strive to be sexually pure and chaste—but then so are married folks.
To be an embodied soul means we are image bearers that live on earth in bodies which are created with the capacity for sexual expression.Having consistently practiced this when they were dating, it was impossible for us and for our daughters to imagine them dating a young man without first openly addressing with him all the principles that follow.(Each time we did this, of course, it further reinforced these principles for our daughters and for us.) “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God.” (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5). Sex was created by the holy God of heaven, where purity reigns.We found that this was a great help not only to our daughters but also to the young men who wanted to date them.We made our expectations clear, gave them specific guidance and principles (not just rules), and told them we’d be asking them if they were living up to these standards.
Christian dating is however different from worldly dating because Christian couples are expected to adhere to certain principles.